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[PDF/EPUB] An Affair with My Mother ☆ Caitriona Palmer


10 thoughts on “An Affair with My Mother

  1. says:

    A young unmarried Irish girl gets pregnant in the 1970s gives birth while shrouded in Catholic shame and relinuishes the baby in a secret adoption The trauma of that secret never leaves her This beautiful memoir is written by that relinuished

  2. says:

    An incredible feat to have put together the narrative of her intersecting lives the one she was born into and the one she was hustled into via adoption It feels carefully too carefully constructed and yet there is anger underneath admitted to only briefly and rarely explored in the narrative despite lifting the lid on the Irish adoption experience it felt like much was left unwritten or perhaps written in a first draft a

  3. says:

    Very moving beautifully written

  4. says:

    Well written thought provoking

  5. says:

    After finding a half sister 3 years ago we never knew about I am constantly trying to understand and know my mother’s story She died 27 years ago never telling any of us If my Dad who died in 2012 ever knew he never said and for some reason deep inside I don’t believe he did know I couldn’t put the book down I understood her need to know and visit the places from not only her past but Sarah’s I felt at times Caitriona was

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    I have wanted to read this since seeing the author on TV earlier this year An episode of Long Lost Family without the happy ever after story of everyone embracing long lost relatives Sensitively and warmly written it tells the authors own a story of a child given up for adoption by an unmarried mother in the dr

  7. says:

    So helpful and no sacrifice in readability I am an adoptive mother so I pick up books about adoption occasionally to help me better parent my adopted son I appreciate the consideration the author gave to her mot

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    The book starts slow as a journal or memoir of an Irish adopted girl detailing her daily life I was pushing the read and con

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    This novel is a heartwrenching eye opening personal account about the oppressive nature of Ireland's theocracy in the 1970's until fairly modern times Palmer discusses openly the emotional turmoil involved with the adoption system that kept unmarried women like her mother isolated and shamed their entire life Her affair with her

  10. says:

    Eye opening story of adopted childrenVery well written but sometimes tedious to read such detail However I felt anxious and understood a little better why someone would go to such a great extent to find their roots Also being the same age as Sarah I could understand her plight

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An Affair with My Mother

'Incredibly moving' Anne Enright winner of the Man Booker Prize An Affair with My Mother by Caitriona Palmer a moving and gripping story of love denial and a daughter's uest for the truthCaitriona Palmer had a happy childhood in Dublin raised by loving adoptive parents But when she was in her late twenties she realized that she had a strong need to know the woman who had given birth to her She was able to locate her birth mother Sarah and they developed a strong attachmentBut Sarah set one painful condition to this joyous. An incredible feat to have put together the narrative of her intersecting lives the one she was born into and the one she was hustled into via adoption It feels carefully too carefully constructed and yet there is anger underneath admitted to only briefly and rarely explored in the narrative despite lifting the lid on the Irish adoption experience it felt like much was left unwritten or perhaps written in a first draft and rejected replaced with an overdose of gratitudeI find myself thinking despite the 14 years or so of secrecy she is forced into having met her birth mother but unable to meet anyone else in the family thus the reference to an affair that Catriona was indeed the lucky one for the shame put upon the birth mother the contract she is made to sign the two bigoted interfering women the robed men who as part of a system of domination decided to institutionalise and punish only women and rid society of their illegitimate children supposedly cleansing them and reattaching them to worthy parents a system that made that poor young women live with the conseuences of an act of two people not one was and continues to be callous horrendous and cruel And it lives on they will never be free of that fear and shame instilled into them and they will have passed it down and no doubt had it passed to themIt s appalling the way women have been treated the patriarchal system of domination using language like the traditional family to enforce a highly punitive model of unrealistic behaviour that provoked fear caused trauma ensuring continued dominationFor a considered review of the book see my blog review at Word by Word here

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R unwed Irish mothers of her generation frightened traumatized and bereft It is also a beautifully written account of a remarkable relationship'Caitriona Palmer has called out the false shame of her origins with a kind of anguished courage that is incredibly moving An Affair With My Mother is a forensic account of how it feels to be in the interests of Catholic respectability excluded from the facts of your own life In its commitment to family love to joy and truth it is a gift' Anne Enright winner of the Man Booker Prize. This novel is a heartwrenching eye opening personal account about the oppressive nature of Ireland s theocracy in the 1970 s until fairly modern times Palmer discusses openly the emotional turmoil involved with the adoption system that kept unmarried women like her mother isolated and shamed their entire life Her affair with her mother being kept a secret is an important read to understand the nature of how adoption can shape your life

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New relationship she wished to keep it to keep Caitriona secret from her family from her friends from everyoneWho was Sarah and why did she want to preserve a decades old secret An Affair with My Mother tells the story of Caitriona's uest to answer these uestions and of the intense furtive 'affair' she and her mother conducted in carefully chosen locations around Dublin By turns heartwarming and heartbreaking An Affair with My Mother is a searing portrait of the social and familial forces that left Sarah and so many othe. I have wanted to read this since seeing the author on TV earlier this year An episode of Long Lost Family without the happy ever after story of everyone embracing long lost relatives Sensitively and warmly written it tells the authors own a story of a child given up for adoption by an unmarried mother in the draconian Ireland of 1972 under the antiuated adoption laws of the time and of the power the church was able to weald over the state Page 192 The danger of a catholic baby going to non catholic home CP explores the intense feelings of the birth mother the adoptee and the adoptive parents The juxtaposition of Philomena who traces her son who she gave up for adoption only to find that he has passed away and the mother in this book who is still bound by feelings of guilt secrecy and although happy to meet Catriona insists that her existence remains a secret conducting their relationship in a series of clandestine meetings in the hotel and bars of Dublin In addition the birth father whose reaction to the pregnancy in 1971 was to pretend he didn t hear did not want to admit to the existence of his daughter CP has had to endure the shame and embarrassment of not being publicly acknowledged by either biological parent thank heavens for the wonderful Liam Mary who adopted her into a family of love I sincerely hope that her birth mother like Philomena eventually finds the courage to open up and tell her story to her family One uote from the end which sums it all up page 244 there was the Catholic Church with its culture of institutional dishonesty and shame and the Irish state which allowed the Church to dictate the terms on which unmarried mothers and their children were treated There was Irish society which turned its head the other way choosing not to see IMHO the church has a lot to answer for Highly and strongly recommended

  • Paperback
  • 256
  • An Affair with My Mother
  • Caitriona Palmer
  • English
  • 04 September 2017
  • 9781844883578